So here’s the deal. Last November I found myself at what may
have been the lowest point of my entire life. I was being deeply affected by a
problem that somebody I cared deeply for had going on in their life. I wasn’t
satisfied with where I was in my own life and I felt like everything at the
time was out of control (which ultimately is a mirage anyway). My most
important relationship at the time was in great danger, I had lost interest in
one of my passions (music with my band) and I seriously was going into some
deep “fight or flight “mode.
I had considered therapy but I knew “for me” that I was so
tired of talking about the past and rehashing things that could not be changed
or controlled. I needed to find some peace, emotional peace, spiritual peace
and be physically rejuvenated. So I did what a lot of us do when we have issues
we want to change or learn about, I turned to our friend “Google”.
At this point I was introduced to the term “Life Coaching”.
I liked this concept because it focused on “forward thinking”, developing plans
for the goals I had and having a coach to help me get to where I wanted to go
in “my life”. I met an incredible man here in Pueblo Co. (message me for info)
that seriously helped me to change the way I was thinking and processing any
challenge or issue that not only was going on at the time but also challenges
that were to come in the months ahead.
One of the things that bothered me the most was although I
was grateful for the career I had/have in construction there still was a huge
void that I had tried to fill with so many other things, similar to forcing the
wrong puzzle piece into a space. I thought back to when in my life I had felt
fulfilled and the most satisfied. I realized it was when I was in the ministry.
I knew it wasn’t because of my beliefs or my faith so much but because I loved
to help people and serve. I loved to listen to people and watch them discover
solutions and realize goals that were best for them.
Last April some of the challenges were still there because I
had allowed them to be, I hadn’t fully committed to taking control of myself
and my own life up to that point. I soon realized what was missing, it was “purpose”.
I knew if I didn’t determine what my purpose in life was I would never be able
to fill the void that I had felt. I knew deep down what this purpose was, it was
clear.
I realized that having a “Coach” in my life was one of the
biggest turning points in my existence. I knew I loved serving and helping
others and a plan and dream was born.
So I made a bold move with not a lot of
extra cash on hand and I purchased a “Life Coach Training Course” from a
credible coach training organization and I decided that even if it never becomes a full time
career I needed to do this not only for myself but also for others that are
stuck in a rut of unfulfilled plans and dreams just as I was.
Saying all of that to say this, Coaching is not about the
coach but about the coachee, meaning that even though coaches (especially this
one) have had their share of mistakes and or challenges in their own lives, the
coachee will determine what changes and goals there are to make their lives the
best they can be. You know what you want and ultimately you know how to get
there. My job is to through powerful dialogue help you to determine how to get
around the roadblocks that prevent us all from getting to our “best life”.
I don’t have all of the answers, not even close. But you do
if you really think about it, you already know what you want and what it will
take to get there. So let’s collaborate and put together a plan to get you on
your way. Remember it’s my job to work my way out of a job with clients!
Thanks for reading!
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Thanks for sharing, Ernie - very encouraging!
ReplyDeleteThanks buddy, checked out your blog also, stay the course man, you can do it!
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